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Post by Kayen/Saul/Katarina on Feb 28, 2008 23:26:03 GMT -5
I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I want to rant and I want your opinions! I have recently come to the conclusion that society, as a whole, is materialistic and hypocritical. I am 23 years old and I have tried every dating website from Dating 4 Disabled to Match, and out of the hundreds of attempts that I have made at contacting people, 80% have ignored or blocked me, 5% have told me to dream on, 5% have told me I'm useless because of my disability, while the other 10% have had a myriad of other excuses. So my question is this: would you ever date someone in a wheelchair? If not, why not? Also, do you agree with my opinion of society?
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Post by Elifain on Feb 28, 2008 23:37:33 GMT -5
well. in my opinion a person is a person, no matter if they r a diferent race, handicaped, or other... it wouldnt matter with me, as long as i have similar ideals as the person...
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Post by Drake on Feb 28, 2008 23:39:18 GMT -5
You know this reminds me of a question I had in my philosophy class a few years back, but I won't get into that. To me, I think you should date whoever you feel if you like the person then date them. Its the same for race, religion, or whether the person has a physical disability. I believe that society as a whole especially American society does put a big emphasis (excuse my spelling if thats wrong) on looks. And that does make it hard for most people because any statistic will show that the average American don't look like people in the media or pop and movie stars. So yes that makes it bad for the rest of us. Now as for me personally I will date whoever can hold my interest for more than five seconds. (Though that maybe hard since video games have killed my attention span). So, thats how I feel in a nutshell hoped thats what you were lookin for buddy.
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Post by Kayen/Saul/Katarina on Feb 28, 2008 23:41:35 GMT -5
I'm not looking for anything, just opinions really...
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Post by Darth Nergul on Feb 29, 2008 1:41:46 GMT -5
Hey, I would date anyone who really gets along well with me, handicapped or not. Unfortunately, I have high standards in terms of how I like people. I can't date an idiot, no matter how pretty they are. On the side note, that's why I hate most popular girls. Still, I'd probably date a smart person who's handicapped.
EDIT: I completely forgot to answer your second question. Yes, I do think society sucks. I hate it. Sickens me, especially around where I live.
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Post by Kayen/Saul/Katarina on Feb 29, 2008 1:54:42 GMT -5
Here in Louisiana it's just as bad...
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Post by Drake on Feb 29, 2008 2:00:07 GMT -5
You think thats bad I go up to school and the hood rats from Detroit up at college and I'm like "Bitch you come from the run down D like me you aint no better..." so yea it really pisses me off.
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Post by Allko Lytri on Feb 29, 2008 15:25:44 GMT -5
I think that society today is shallow, and if you look different than anyone, your "undesirable". My answer to your question would be that it doesnt matter if someone's in a wheelchair, or black or asian or anything, if i really get along with that person, then i'd date them. then again, thats just my opinion.
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Post by Zilfer Of Shadows... on Feb 29, 2008 20:22:00 GMT -5
very very shallow here in america, but i guess what's how we are.
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Post by Akumu on Feb 29, 2008 23:05:52 GMT -5
I would date someone in a wheelchair. Anyone who is so shallow that they let that get in the way of dating doesn't need to be dating at all.
I'm one of those people who dates based on personality. Not looks or money or "looseness". Hell, right now I'm engaged to a girl who is as broke as me and we don't do anything more naughty than cuddle, and I couldn't be happier.
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Post by bruinfamer on Feb 29, 2008 23:58:07 GMT -5
I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I want to rant and I want your opinions! I have recently come to the conclusion that society, as a whole, is materialistic and hypocritical. I am 23 years old and I have tried every dating website from Dating 4 Disabled to Match, and out of the hundreds of attempts that I have made at contacting people, 80% have ignored or blocked me, 5% have told me to dream on, 5% have told me I'm useless because of my disability, while the other 10% have had a myriad of other excuses. So my question is this: would you ever date someone in a wheelchair? If not, why not? Also, do you agree with my opinion of society? Well, society as a whole changes everyday. Everyone has their own wants and needs. Personally, I wouldn't use a dating website to find someone. Date someone you know well. |
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Post by Akumu on Mar 1, 2008 22:43:09 GMT -5
Agreed.
What the hell are you doing on a dating website?
I went to match.com once. A worldwide search came up with 0 people who would be interested in me XD
Just make some really good friends and work from there. I've known my fiancee for 10 years. We;ve been dating 3. It takes time to build up a relationship.
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Post by Dan on Mar 6, 2008 0:39:47 GMT -5
I believe it's only natural to expect economic productivity from a relationship. People with disabilities in society are seen as 'doomed' from the beginning, not to mention the thought of feeling obligated to essentially nurse someone for the rest of your life. I know you take care of yourself; I'm just pointing out a human response.. just as we avoid old and sick people, we avoid anyone who doesn't fit the mold of the upstanding, visibly capable individual we want to compliment us in life. Call it shallow, but it takes a strong person to get around his/her own mental barriers to commit to something like that.
Some of these things may frustrate you, but perspective is obviously essential in this case.
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Post by Moonfire on Mar 14, 2008 20:07:42 GMT -5
Well personally... I'm a romantic at heart XD (Yes, I did just notice this topic)
I would date someone in a wheelchair... if they asked XD You see, I have a problem with the fact that I can't really say no when I'm asked out, hence the fact that I have a horde of very creepy male stalkers... and I mean this in the most literal sense.
Though I would date one, because in my opinion, love is love. If I love you, it shouldn't be based on appearance, ability, gender, age any of that. Love is love... so yeah XD My 2 cents on that matter, and I figured you'd like to know, since I do happen to be one of the few females of the board...
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Post by jhackveral on Jul 3, 2008 2:35:14 GMT -5
well. in my opinion a person is a person, no matter if they r a diferent race, handicaped, or other... it wouldnt matter with me, as long as i have similar ideals as the person... That is true i full on with you man |
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